Welcome To The Website
I started Get-O-Life as a Prodigy Bulletin Board almost 30 years ago with home organization tips. In 2003, my husband was diagnosed with Bipolar 1. Up til then, I honestly believed that if only I could get my act together, if I could get my home in order and make my sons to behave, if I could be the perfect wife and mother--that I would be living a cozy middle-class lifestyle.
I knew that something was wrong, but I just couldn't put my finger on it. My husband's diagnosis seemed like a revelation from GOD. Now I could free my conscience-it wasn't my fault. This was a disorder that could be treated. Take a bit of lithium and call me in the morning. But it really wasn't that easy...
I started reading everything I could get my hands on--books, articles, websites, support groups and online forums. There was a lot of information and advice, but nothing seemed to really be working. There were no real answers--just more questions.
Eventually I learned that this was a very individual disorder and that what worked for one family might be a disaster for another. There were a few a few basic principles, but no cookie-cutter solutions.
Within this site, I will share those basic principles and how they have worked in practical terms for my family or for other families I have been in contact with. You will need to adapt those ideas to your own situation, but the tools will be laid out for you. Use what works, skip what doesn't. Please take your time with the information within these pages. I am always adding things to the site, so if you have any questions, comments or things that have worked for you and your significant other, please feel free to drop me a line. I always like snail mail and email; I also have been know to take the occasional phone call. All my information is on my Contact Us page.
Check out the Bipolar Support Page
There is a lot of marriage therapy and relationship advice out there and some of it really does work in almost any situation, but the majority of it only works well for "normal" situations with "normal" partners. I have yet to meet a "normal" person. None of it works with a person who is not stable.
Check Out the Home Organization Area
As a young housewife, I was convinced that if I just managed to get my life together and learn to do all of the housewife stuff, that everything would be fine. But I just didn't "get" all of that organizing stuff. My house (and life) were a mess. It took me years of research and support group to learn the most basic skills. I started teaching others online and organized the classes.
This site was made and continues to be maintained by my husband, a diagnosed Bipolar 1. He is medicated, when we can afford the meds. We have worked very hard for many years since his diagnosis to find the correct balance of medications. This by no means was an overnight process. He has tried many different medications and medication combinations. He has had a medication overdose, not on purpose and it was not severe. The blood tests were interpreted incorrectly by a fill-in psychiatrist. He is on this 3rd psychiatrist, he wasn't at ease with the others (She is not easy on him, but they have a good relationship). He has also self committed to get meds in line to where he feels, in his words, human again.
You cannot live their lives for them, you can only live your life with them. At times it's not easy, but in the long run both your lives will be better. Make sure to read through this site. This is what works for me and my husband. It may not work for you, but always make sure that you are safe, you keep your sanity.
We have been together for over 30 years. Not saying that staying together is the answer, but our love for each other is what keeps both of us pushing on.
The words on this site are tools, and that's why this is a project...A Bipolar Spouse Project.